Breakups | Getting over it

I'm sure the majority of you have all been through this and probably all felt exactly the same way.

Breakups are never ever nice. Even if it ends on mutual terms there are always leftover feelings and memories that refuse to disappear. Some do not end like this. Some are horrific and so emotionally draining that people often shrink away into shadows and become emotional wrecks... This was me.

The main factor to remember when splitting up from someone or being split up with is, it was obviously never meant to be. The person who was probably your world, who you respected and admired most of all in your life clearly did not feel the same for you. This is sad, but very true, and this realisation is often when problems start in relationships. This is a fact of life not everyone is compatible.

I have had my fair share of Breakups, and each of them have been equally taxing. But now from some experience I think it is most important to remember the following;




- There is absolutely nothing wrong with being "single and ready to mingle". It is terrifying getting back in the game and I know those of the opposite or same sex (depending on which way your sails take you) seem like aliens compared to the person you knew, you need to find out whats out there.

- Finding yourself is just as important as finding what you want. Everyone knows you as "Tara's boyfriend" or "Sam's girlfriend", but I'll bet they don't know you as an individual.

- Have fun and don't dwell on the past, however messy your breakup was or however much you miss them or however much "they were made for you".

- Don't text them, don't make any contact whatsoever.

- and don't dig, finding out any information that you didn't know already will make things considerably worse and considerably harder to deal with!

But most importantly never forget this - "what's meant for you will not go past you" - a saying that I learnt from my lovely gran... and its worked for me ever since.

I hope this helped... If you still feel down. Perhaps read my post on Help through hard times... when I was going through what you were.

Thanks.

How did you cope with your breakup? | Did you do the same as me?