Help through hard times..... {Day1/7}

'Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one remembers to turn on the light' - Wise wise Gandalf.

Dear Friends and Readers,

I have reached a point in my life - which I'm sure most of you have - where I find myself at a slight standstill and I am beginning to wonder what lurks on the horizon for my future self.

University is finished for the summer and having recently broke up with my long term boyfriend, I feel rather alone. It seems that myself and many others forget about some of their friends when they are in a relationship, usually through no fault of the person, rather the persons heart.

My wonderfull friend however sent me a remarkable book to try and lift my spirits, providing the light to my darkness!

Life Lessons by Lesley Garner (buy here) is a truly humble read in which the writer gives her insight and opinion on all aspects of life from Money advice to forgivness. I must say she is very very good at advice.

After reading I somehow felt I had a compleately different outlook on the world and the many mountains life decides to throw before us.

I think reinvention of the self Is important for self confidence and to help clear the fog of the future (something I learned from Lesley...if I can call her that). However, one thing I will say is do not change who you are. Because it is fake, it will not last and people will see through it. Also, you owe it to yourself to be the person you are.

I have decided to go about this 'reinvention' rather light footedly. I have not changed much about my appearance (although I am getting my hair dyed soon), but I have changed my state of mind.

Key points I now focus on:

- Do not dwell on the past or on things you wish you could change. You cant.
- Be who you want to be, who cares what snooty nose thinks. It just means he/she feels threatened by you - thats a good thing.
- Do what you want to do, its your life. Live it

Another thing, focus on the good things in your life, they are easy to forget! I have just started a new job.....which may I add is amazing! Meeting new people has really helped with my outlook, so has drinking wine. Everyone copes with things differently.

Now I understand that my posts are random and probably useless to most of you however as always I hope I have helped, do feel free to ask me any questions!

Lots of Love
xx