Attitude {Day 7/7}

Having strops and mood swings is all very well when you are a teenager, but seeing a grown man or women having a tantrum or moaning excessively is rather odd. But these people do exist.


Many people have different attitudes towards different things. Some may be more relaxed towards the idea of say, drink driving while others may take it very seriously. Whichever category someone fits into, I think it is important to have a positive attitude towards most things as unhappy thoughts get you down and hold you back.


I try to be positive and optimistic towards most things in life. Glass half full rather than half empty. Life can be hard and it can be a struggle but having a positive attitude towards things inevitably makes you see things in a better light. Washing up or doing the laundry can transform from a chore to an opportunity for some time to yourself, time to think and relax. Unless you are one of the odd ones who makes a fuss over nothing.


The more positive you are the more opportunities you will make for yourself. For example, an optimist will think 'Yeah I'll give that a try', where as a pessimistic person will think 'No way in hell'.


Trying things and doing things for the first time is a good thing and will give you the confidence within yourself to want to do them. This in turn should lead to you becoming a much more interesting person to be around, something which others are attracted to.


It will also enable you to have a much fuller life, compacted full of exciting things and exciting perople. Life should never be dull if you obtain the right approach and comply to the correct attitude to better your living. It could lead to some amazing things. Try anything, get everywhere and anything.


Hope this has helped, just as I hope the other six posts have. I have thoroughly enjoyed writing them and would be very grateful to have some feedback from my readers in the comments section.


Thank you
xx

The Past {Day 6/7}

'I still remember that day we met in December'

We all have features of our past that we regret, things we wish we never did and feelings we wish we never had.

It is never a good thing to wish something had never happened but realistically without the past, one would simply not learn anything. Sadly, learning from your mistakes is often the only way. Making mistakes is part of human nature and essential in developing a sufficient thought process and it is only by making these mistakes that you learn how to do things correctly.

Regret is a horrible feeling. Dread seems to be regrets bestest friend, forever hanging around together causing you problems. These feelings linger though will eventually pass. Allowing yourself to move on and look forward to the future is a good may to think.

So it has been said that you should 'live with no regrets', well strangely enough that is an impossible thing to do: unless you are an exceptional human being who seems to get everything right first time. Very unlikely.

I have many regrets from my past. Some major, some minor. Some of them still hurt me, but in a way I am grateful for them as they have developed me into the person I am. Without them I would be entirely different. I would not have had as many experiences as I have had, would probably be incredibly naive and immature and more importantly I would not have the same outlook on the world as I do now.

Looking forward to what lies ahead is exciting, who knows what may wait around the corner. Hopefully a huge lotto win or something really good for tea. Who knows. My point is, you never know, and everything happens for a reason. Remember that.

So be grateful for your past. Respect it and admire it. It is yours and yours only. Not a single other person shares the same past, present nor future as you. A remarkable thing when you think about it.

Make mistakes, live them and learn from them. Make as many mistakes as you deem worthy. It may be worth it in the long run.

Hope this was useful in some way, shape or form. Thanks for reading.
xx

The territory of Betrayal {Day5/7}

Listen to this (track) throughout this post, I feel it helps emphasise the words.


Betrayal, the lowest of the low. The hardest thing to get over and the cruelest, most heartless thing to do. It comes in many shapes or forms, anything from being cheated on by a partner to countless spiteful attacks by a close friend. Anything in this area has adverse effects on a person and in some cases leads to icing of the soul.


Betrayal is ultimate disappointment, ultimate misery and untimate despair. It is very hard to comprehend and I understand that the main question floating in everyone's minds is Why? I guess for the most part you will never ever know why someone could be so cruel to make you feel so small. I think however, that not knowing in some cases is better than knowing. As usually it will be another dissapointment.


Having experienced betrayal myself - quite recently infact - I know that it is horrific and traumatic and is something that does not dissappear overnight, nor after several months. Hatred builds and forgiveness seems out of the question. For me it is, in this case anyway but that does not mean that you should discount it.


Forgiveness, whether it is forgiveness of the self, or forgiving another can sometimes be the starting  point to build yourself back up after the hurt is over. Now, I know that forgiving someone is hard, but it will help in the long run. It will help settle the thoughts and that horrible feeling in your gut. Just think 'Hey, if they meant that much to me, and I meant that much to them they would be here, and they would never let me go'.


 Someone who does not appreciate you for who you are is not worth it. Let them get on with their life, knowing that you are a better person than them. This should be enough for you to rise above them. If not write down all the things they did to you that hurt, all the things that you hated about them and how much better your life is now without them - This should settle it, at least for a while.


Otherwise listen to songs of sadness...they make you stronger. Here are some I like -  (Link1)(Link 2)


Remember: ''Coulda been a princess, could be a king. Coulda had a castle or worn a ring. But no''


Hope I helped and as ever, thank you so much for reading, its what makes me write more.
xx

Lies {Day4/7}

Lying, something we all do but not all of us admit to.

 For the majority of people lying is considered as wrong, something which only untrustworthy, selfish and unreliable people omit to. So you say. Although, it is also a fact that everyone will tell a lie at some point in their life, whether it is a white lie or a complex conspiracy of webbed lies - we have all done it in some shape or form.

Lying to someone is never a nice thing and is usually unjustifiable. Some lies have no purpose no benefit nor gain, sometimes people just think that lying is easier than telling the truth. Simple as. Though those of you who have experienced the opposite will agree that it is indeed much harder to keep a lie going and in turns ends up with more and more lies piled on top of it. Never a good situation to be in.

However there is another side to this. For example, you see your bestfriends boyfriend/girlfriend holding hands/kissing 'whatevering' with someone else. Thus you find yourself with a situation; do I tell, and leave my friend heartbroken, or do I hide it from them, pretend everything is ok and see them fall further and further for somebody you know is dishonest.

A tough one. Personally I think my mind would get the better of me and I would have to say something or other. I would probably be more inclined to inform the 'cheater' of my sightings, to give them a chance of honesty and in turn a chance for forgiveness.

Any honest and trustworthy person would do the same, im sure. Though, every situation is different. Lying or hiding something from someone usually cuts you up inside, leads to sleepless nights and results in endless thoughts. I guess this is a sign that your instinct is right, or wrong. Either way.

I think it is a good thing to go with your gut instinct. After a good few hours or days of thought, of course.

I have lied in the past, I have probably lied to most people that I know. Never a terrible lie might I add. Lying is certainly part of our culture and I guess there is no way to rid of it. My only wish is for people to think, just for a second before they tell a lie. Just think how things wold turn out if you were honest. Would it make it better. Yes? Then be the bigger person and stand up for your morals.

You never know how much this could change others oppinions of you, and when others have a good opinion of someone they are more inclined to confide and form a relationship with that person. Just a heads up.

As ever, I hope this has been helpfull and insightful.

Thanks for reading
xx

Independence {Day 3/7}

Independence means different things to different people. For me, Independence is the ability to go out and do things on your own and not be afraid to do so.


For most, the first step towards Independence may be your first job. Earning money for yourself as to not wholly depend on your parents for financial support. For the majority moving away to University/College will be the first taste of 'freedom'.


Having moved away (by 'away' I mean two and a half hours drive +) to University last September, and from practically living on my own most of the time I feel I have most certainly become more Independent. Making me confident enough within myself to do things I have dreamt of.


For a while now I have had pondering thoughts over a trip to Paris. Paris has always fascinated me and having never really experienced much of France at all I feel a trip to the capital city would be fitting. Mostly because it is one of the fashion capitals of the world and maybe because it supposedly has the best patisseries. Just maybe.


Though after doing some research I have found that I will not be gorging myself on Pierre Hermé confectionery any time soon. Due to work commitments and the nearing University term it seems that planning an extensive trip in such a small time frame is not realistic. Though I will never throw in the towel on this idea, I have found a substitute.


At the end of summer I am going for a short trip to Canada to visit my Uncle and some friends. Still have a hell of a lot of planning to do and I am only able to go for around ten days, but I think this will be an excellent way to end the summer! Any Canadian readers feel free to give me some inspiration.

I feel that its doing things like this that will help me and anyone else develop into a much more Independant, Confident and Interesting person. Something which I desire to be. Something which I'm sure you do to.


Hope this has given a little insight into my life and a little look into the workings of my mind. Please feel free to share if you are planning anything similar or have done in the past.


Thanks for reading, as ever
xx

Power and Control {Day 2/7}

Power and Control
...Self control and Self restraint are two factors with which we humans struggle enormously. We all know the story and we all give in to the same silly things.

Many of us, women mostly will undoubtedly find ourselves within this or a similar situation - Allowing yourself a calorie laden treat because, one really wont make that much difference to the millimetres you watch multiplying around your midriff. Usually we back this up with excuses such as; ' I walked to work today', 'I skipped lunch' or 'I'm having a bad day'. Yes sometimes these excuses work, but sometimes you have to accept that they are worthless excuses that get you nowhere. The solution - apply the force of self restraint.

Personally my downfall is talking about myself a little too much. I would not say I was a selfish person, nor would I say I think I am better than anyone else (what does better even mean?) Somehow, sometimes I just feel the need to tell everyone how I am feeling and deliver the latest drama of my life. I am sure I am not alone in this habit, however I am quite ashamed of it.

Self restraint is the tool to altering things about your being that you are not quite happy with. Now, for me anyway using this will take a lot of practise, though it is something I would like to work on to alter myself for the better. Note the word alter, not change.

Alterations should be done for the self and not any other person in the world. If someone thinks you should change for them, they are not worth your time, patience or effort. So don't bother. Having a good self image and impression of ones self is very important if you are to succeed in your alterations. In other words if you do not think that you are worth the effort, you will never accomplish anything.

What I'm trying to say is, be who you want to be and don't let anything stand in your way. You'll be surprised what you can achieve if you set your mind to it. Try it, it might just work.

P.S If you will not listen to me, listen to Audrey. 'As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands. One to help yourself and one to help others'

Thanks for reading as ever.
xx

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Help through hard times..... {Day1/7}

'Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one remembers to turn on the light' - Wise wise Gandalf.

Dear Friends and Readers,

I have reached a point in my life - which I'm sure most of you have - where I find myself at a slight standstill and I am beginning to wonder what lurks on the horizon for my future self.

University is finished for the summer and having recently broke up with my long term boyfriend, I feel rather alone. It seems that myself and many others forget about some of their friends when they are in a relationship, usually through no fault of the person, rather the persons heart.

My wonderfull friend however sent me a remarkable book to try and lift my spirits, providing the light to my darkness!

Life Lessons by Lesley Garner (buy here) is a truly humble read in which the writer gives her insight and opinion on all aspects of life from Money advice to forgivness. I must say she is very very good at advice.

After reading I somehow felt I had a compleately different outlook on the world and the many mountains life decides to throw before us.

I think reinvention of the self Is important for self confidence and to help clear the fog of the future (something I learned from Lesley...if I can call her that). However, one thing I will say is do not change who you are. Because it is fake, it will not last and people will see through it. Also, you owe it to yourself to be the person you are.

I have decided to go about this 'reinvention' rather light footedly. I have not changed much about my appearance (although I am getting my hair dyed soon), but I have changed my state of mind.

Key points I now focus on:

- Do not dwell on the past or on things you wish you could change. You cant.
- Be who you want to be, who cares what snooty nose thinks. It just means he/she feels threatened by you - thats a good thing.
- Do what you want to do, its your life. Live it

Another thing, focus on the good things in your life, they are easy to forget! I have just started a new job.....which may I add is amazing! Meeting new people has really helped with my outlook, so has drinking wine. Everyone copes with things differently.

Now I understand that my posts are random and probably useless to most of you however as always I hope I have helped, do feel free to ask me any questions!

Lots of Love
xx